REGAINING CONTROL

Communicate how you feel under the following headings (It may help to write it down or get someone to listen and write it for you):-
(a)Physical
(b)Mental
(c)Emotional
(d)Volitional(being able to choose)
(e)Social/relational
(f)Spiritual(if applicable)
You may wish to just put the words 'Responsive' or 'Reactive' next to each.(Trust the language you use, it will indicate what possible struggles are. i.e. 'I feel out of control' Shows is reactive - emotional/volitional)Then starting with (a) set a target for the next month. i.e. My first target was to take medicine regularly.

Review targets each month. Try not to change too many things at once. It is possible that reducing (d)& (e) May also give more control and allow boundaries to be re-established.

You need to learn to recognise the impact each change is having.(If it de-stabilises, move back a bit. You may also see reaction in in other areas. i.e. a mental change may have emotional/physical consequences).

Be gentle and safe in your changes. Work towards being responsive rather than reactive.

If others are aware of your 'targets' then they should be able to respond appropriately and remind of previous successes. Is there anybody else that could 'support' you at this time ?(if you are a carer and person isn't up to the above, then 'supportively' share targets with them, making sure they feel 'physically' safe first !)

A useful overview from the TUC

I must admit I had to be reminded I already had this link.

http://www.tuc.org.uk/h_and_s/tuc-5771-f0.cfm

It is useful also to see the Canadian view see post for

http://edukayted.blogspot.com/2007/08/canada-is-in-lead.html


Many thanks to those contributing links !

To stop those bullys with dignity !

These have some excellent links

http://dignityatworknow.org.uk/

and
SORRY UNAVAILABLE AT PRESENT
http://www.bullyonline.org/

Expressing your work concerns

Try jotting down how you feel. You'll be surprised how the language you use gives a clue to the situation you are in and its solution.

To help the following may be handy.
'I am concerned about ...............

Culture - Change - Control
Organisation
Needs - (personal)
Communication - Relationships
Environment
Role
Nurture - Training/Support
Experience
Demands

(Keywords for H&SE -Management Standards for Work-related Stress
http://www.hse.gov.uk/stress/standards/downloads.htm)

COULD THIS BE OF HELP TO YOU ?

Need some support
http://mhsupp0rt.proboards98.com/

Thanks to all those passing on good links.

A breathe of fresh air in Scotland

Try this out and its free ! Help is finally getting through !

http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/index.php

TAKE TIME TO BREATHE

Step 1 Teach yourself to breathe to relax



(if anyone has a good visual link ?)

Step 2 Close your eyes. Focus on your breathing. Visit mentally any parts of your body that you can feel tension in. Adjust your position to allow that part of the body to be supported. At any time of agitation re-focus on your breathing.

You'll be surprised how quickly your body will re-learn its breathing technique.

Apparently to balance brain application, breathe in & out with alternatate nostrils (You will have to cover each in turn)